THE FEUD MADE HEADLINES — BUT A TWO-YEAR-OLD GIRL SHOWED TOBY KEITH WHAT REALLY MATTERED. By 2003, Toby Keith and Natalie Maines had become the center of one of country music’s ugliest public fights. Her criticism of “Courtesy of the Red, White and Blue” led to a provocative concert backdrop. A lettered T-shirt answered back. Fans chose sides, and the headlines kept score. But the song at the center of it all had never been born in a boardroom. It came from two wounds: the attacks of September 11 and the loss of Toby’s father, H.K. Covel, an Army veteran killed in a highway accident only months earlier. When Toby sang, “My daddy served in the army,” he was not reaching for a campaign slogan. He was reaching for his dad. Then real grief entered the room. Allison Webb, the two-year-old daughter of one of Toby’s former bandmates, died from cancer. Suddenly, the insults that had seemed so important looked painfully small. Toby announced that he was finished with the feud because there were “more important things than that to concentrate on.” He could not erase the bitterness, but he could stop feeding it. He turned his attention toward families facing childhood cancer and kept carrying his guitar overseas, eventually completing 18 USO tours for service members far from home. Country music remembers the feud because it was loud. But perhaps the truer measure of Toby Keith was the moment he chose silence—when a grieving family reminded him that some battles are too sacred to become headlines.
The Feud That Made Headlines, and the Little Girl Who Changed Toby Keith’s Focus By 2003, Toby Keith and Natalie…