TWO DAYS AFTER HIS BEST FRIEND DIED, TOBY KEITH DIALED HIS PHONE NUMBER — JUST TO HEAR HIS VOICE ONE MORE TIME. Wayman Tisdale was one of a kind. An NBA star who traded the basketball court for a jazz bass, a man Toby Keith once described as “the closest thing to Jesus I’ve ever met.” The two Oklahoma boys were as close as brothers. When Wayman went through surgery after surgery during his cancer fight, Toby was the first person he’d call when he woke up. Then, on Friday, May 15, 2009, the calls stopped. Wayman was gone at just 44. Toby later admitted he spent two days wandering around in a stupor, unable to accept it. On Sunday morning, he did something most of us who’ve lost someone will understand. He picked up his phone and dialed Wayman’s number — knowing no one would answer — just to hear that familiar voice on the outgoing message one last time. Then he hung up, grabbed his guitar, and wrote “Cryin’ for Me (Wayman’s Song)” right there on the spot. He wrote it for one purpose: to sing at Wayman’s funeral. But when the day came, Toby couldn’t get through it. The grief was too heavy. So he sang Willie Nelson’s “Angel Flying Too Close to the Ground” instead, and saved Wayman’s song for when he was stronger. Here’s the part many fans never realized. When Toby finally recorded it, he opened the track with Wayman’s actual voicemail greeting — the very voice he had called to hear that Sunday morning. And the musicians playing behind him? Dave Koz on saxophone and Marcus Miller on bass — Wayman’s own jazz brothers, the same men who played at his funeral. The song climbed to No. 6 on the Billboard country chart, carrying Wayman’s real voice into millions of homes. Toby always said the title meant exactly what it said. He wasn’t crying for Wayman — Wayman was at peace. He was crying for himself, for everyone left behind who had to live without him. Fifteen years later, cancer took Toby too. And somewhere out there, a whole lot of us finally understood the song completely. Now we’re the ones crying — not for him, but for us.
Toby Keith, Wayman Tisdale, and the Phone Call That Became a Song Some friendships stay with you because they are…